A story. Near Tokyo
lived a great samurai, and elderly which was devoted to teach Zen Buddhism to the young.
Despite his advanced age, the legend was that he was able to defeat any adversary.
One day a warrior known for his total lack of scruples, went through the old house. He was famous for using the technique of provocation: expect the opponent to make his first move and, thanks to its privileged intelligence to capture the errors, countered with lightning speed.
The impatient young warrior had never lost a battle. Knowing the reputation of the old Samurai, was there to defeat and further increase his fame.
Zen students who were present protested against the idea, but the old man accepted the challenge. Then they all went to the town square, where the young man began to lead the old man. He threw some stones in their direction, spat in his face and shouted every insult known, offending even his ancestors. For several hours
did everything possible to remove the boxes, but the old man was unmoved. By late afternoon, exhausted and humiliated, the young warrior left the square.
Disappointed that his teacher to accept as many insults and provocations, the students asked: How could he bear such indignity? Why not use his sword, even knowing that it could lose the fight, rather than as a coward to all of us?
Old Samurai, said:
"If someone approaches you with a gift and do not accept it, who owns the gift?
Of course, who tried to deliver, "said one of the disciples.
Same thing goes for envy, anger and insults, "said the teacher. WHEN ARE NOT ACCEPTED, BELONGING TO WHOM THE CONTINUED carry. Nobody
lashes or make us feel bad: ARE WE TO DECIDE HOW TO FEEL. Do not blame anyone for our feelings are the only ones responsible for them.
That is what called assertiveness.
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